Monday, September 3, 2012

Gotta love and learn love!

I love this essay written by Ryan O' Connell entitled:" The types of people you will fall in LOVE with in your 20's" and I think everyone needs to read it.. :)

I can relate to some points and thought how come someone else is writing my story for me. Or maybe because everyone else had gone through the same thing as me. So lemme just share my thoughts with his thoughts. :)

The types of people you will fall in LOVE with in your 20's
by Ryan O' Connell

You will fall in love with someone who annoys you, whose orgasm face looks and feels pathetic. Despite all of this, there’s something keeping you drawn to them, something that makes you want to protect them from the harsh world. What you fail to realize, however, is that you are the harsh world. You aren’t their noble protector — you are someone to be protected from but it takes a lot of dates, a lot of nights where you question whether or not you are actually a good person, for this to ever resonate with you. When it’s over and whatever love is left is put back in the fridge like a sad plate of leftovers, you will finally understand that you have the power to hurt someone. You can either hurt them or love them and it’s up to you to decide what kind of role you would like to take on in future relationships. What feels more comfortable — being the one who loves more or being the one who’s loved less?

Loving someone means becoming more vulnerable, opening yourself to a person who can either make you happy or just hurt you. and yet, you can also view love just like a 2-way dagger sword. You sometimes hurt someone else and you get hurt too ( that's the harsh reality,babe). But despite every hurt, what is there that keep us going back? I wouldn't know either.. but I can definitely relate to that. Last line: I definitely dread to answer that. Hits right the spot, huh? :|

 You will fall in love with someone who’s cold and always seemingly pushing you away. When all is said and done, they will be forever known as the one person you couldn’t get to love you. Unfortunately, it will hurt and sting worse than the good ones, the ones that chopped up your meat for you and picked out an eyelash from your eye and were nice to your mother, because love often feels like a game we need to win. And when we lose, when we realize we couldn’t get what we ultimately desired from a person, it makes us feel like a failure and erases all the memories of those who loved us in the past. It’s a permanent smudge on your love resume. 
Amen to that! that! and that!

You will fall in love with someone for one night and one night only. They’ll come to you when you need them and be gone in the morning when you don’t. At first, this will make you feel empty and you’ll try to convince yourself that you could’ve loved this person for longer than a night, but you can’t. Some people are just meant to make cameo appearances, some are destined to be a pithy footnote. That’s okay though. Not every person we love has to stick around. Sometimes it’s better to leave while you’re still ahead. Sometimes it’s better to leave before you get unloved. 
Is it really better to be the one who left or be the one who get left and unloved? Either way, you get hurt and wonder whatever was wrong with you.

.... So fine. You’re going to fall in love with The One. You’re going to fall in love with someone who will make sense beyond college or a job or a particular season. They’ll make sense forever and won’t ever want to leave you behind. I’m telling you this not because it’s true but because it NEEDS to be true. Everyone is entitled to this kind of love, so why not? Have it. It’s yours. Blow out the candles on your 30th birthday, holding their hand, and let out an exhale that’s been waiting for ten years. Do it. Now.
 I love how this essay ended positively, that maybe someday, I'll find that cliche "The One" in my life. One, who will be worth the wait, the smiles, the emotional roller coaster of love and pain. Hopefully, in 10 years tops, he'll finally walk in to my life and say:" I'm here now to stay and love you". Yes, it's a wonderful thought to believe in.. Because everyone deserves to be loved :)

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